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Wearing Confidence: A Writer’s Wardrobe Must-Haves: Kathryn Ross

September 18, 2017

 

Got challenges? Don’t we all. Life is filled with obstacles on the pathway to realizing our goals and purposes. How do you conquer them?

Well, for a quick fix, I look for something in my power wardrobe. When I wear clothes that fit well and look great on me, I feel empowered and confident. Power clothes shield me from people seeing me in my unvarnished weakness. Like, the crippling insecurity that often comes from . . . well . . . for instance—heading to a writer’s conference to mingle with peer professionals.

I spend a lot of time preparing for writers’ conferences. They keep me focused on my writing goals, providing a deadline for completing projects. I look forward to networking with other writers. Mentoring and being mentored. Growing in my skill sets. Crossing thresholds of new publishing opportunities that might present for me.

All this anticipation fuels my writing fires—until about two weeks before the conference. Then, though I may have my files, proposals, and conference plan in order, a mountain range of doubt looms before me. These obstacles in my path lead me to question everything I’ve just spent weeks preparing.

“Who do you think you are, a REAL writer or something?”

“You always confuse your tenses and use too many commas— what a joke.”

“You have nothing original to say because it’s already been said.”

“You can’t run with the big dogs at writers’ conferences—you need to stay on the porch.”   
Confidence shrinks back. Uncertainty rises-up. A mole-hill becomes a mountain of fear and doubt. That’s where the power wardrobe comes in. I put my confidence game face on. A mask, in fact. I set my face, like flint, to power through the stones, rocks, and boulders that cause me to stumble in weakness on my way. No one will know I shake in my boots behind my mask of confidence, facing the challenges before me. I look sensational in this outfit with a nifty floral pattern!

My computer and files are packed. My power wardrobe is carefully chosen to fit, masking my inner turmoil. But, all is vanity because . . .

My mask is removed at the end of the day.
Sometimes it falls off in the heat of the fray.
That’s not such a bad thing; it leads me to pray,
And Jesus responds, “There’s a better way.”

When I seek to walk in my purpose and calling as a writer, I struggle with confidence going forth. No amount of sensational looking power clothes will overcome the root of my insecurities. The mistake I make is wearing a wardrobe like a mask to just get by.

Masking your confident-to-the-calling shortcomings will not do. There’s nothing wrong with selecting a great looking wardrobe for a writers’ conference. We should present our best selves in outward appearance. Yes—do look sensational.

It’s not about externals. You’ll go all the way to genuine confidence, rather than the mere façade of it, if you give quality attention to packing your internal wardrobe—the closet of your heart. That’s where true confidence roots, producing fruitful and fragrant blossoms that attract and influence. No nifty floral patterns are necessary.

Clothing yourself in the head-to-toe skin-sufficiency of Christ is the bedrock power of true confidence to the task, whatever that is. Be it writers’ conferences or just waking up in the morning, put Christ on in the spirit, before worrying what clothes you’re going to pull out of the closet.

And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes. Galatians 3:27 NLT

And He said to me,My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 2 Corinthians 12:9 NKJV

As a writer, no matter the challenges before you, God calls you to take each one in His wisdom and strength. The crossing of thresholds involve risk—like arriving at a writers’ conference and passing through the doors to the registration desk. Or sitting across the table from the editor or agent you hope to impress. Slip into the skin-sufficiency of Christ when crossing the thresholds of your life and divine calling. The point where risk meets Confidence.

Prayer Journal: Thank you, Lord, that my calling in You is sufficient to the task and the compass to my purpose. You have promised to complete the work You have begun in me. I shall go forth in joy. You will lead me in peace. The mountains and hills of obstacles will break forth before me and be turned to praise by Your hand. I will shout with joy as I know you are cheering me on to accomplish all You have called me to do.  Philippians 1:6, Isaiah 55:12

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I learned a great deal about walking in Christ’s confidence, boldly taking on challenging risks over the past six years of my independent publishing journey. I power-packed many of those spiritual and life lessons in my latest book, The Gatekeeper’s Key: Crossing Thresholds through Portals of Potential

Want to know more? Check out The Gatekeeper’s Key in the Pageant Wagon Bookshop. www.pageantwagonpublishing.com ~ by Kathryn Ross

 

 

Writer-speaker, Kathryn Ross, ignites a love of literature and learning through Pageant Wagon Productions and Publishing. She writes homeschool enrichment and Christian living books for home, church, and school. Her passion is to equip women and families in developing a Family Literacy Lifestyle, producing readers and thinkers who can engage the world from a biblical worldview. She blogs and podcasts at PageantWagonPublishing.com.

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  • Jean Matthew Hall September 18, 2017 at 1:02 pm

    Thanks for a little bolster for my waning confidence. In Christ we STAND-not stoop or slump!

    • Kathryn Ross September 18, 2017 at 8:13 pm

      That’s right, Jean! May you be ever mindful of His grace and calling on your life and find your confidence to stand tall.

      Joy!
      Kathy

  • Connie Clyburn September 18, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    I can so identify with this — my confidence especially wanes at a writer’s conference. I love them, but sometimes feel lost in the sea of greatness. Thanks for your words of inspiration!

    • Kathryn Ross September 18, 2017 at 8:19 pm

      Even that “sea of greatness” have their confidence woes, Connie. When we take our confidence in Christ to a writers conference, we can focus on pouring into others as we are poured into, fulfilling our calling and being enriched to grow. Be ye blessed as you plan for your next writers conference!

      Joy!
      Kathy

  • Terri Lacher September 18, 2017 at 5:42 pm

    Thank you for such a great reminder! It is not enough for me to say “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, but I need to take it to the “closet of my heart.” Writing is more than a passion for me. It is a way to be able to share the great things God does in our lives. My inner closet is getting a thorough cleaning today, thanks to your encouraging words!

    • Kathryn Ross September 19, 2017 at 10:00 am

      Thanks, Terri! We should schedule routine spiritual housecleaning and closet purging to be sure the Lord has all the space for Himself. Love how you continue the metaphor in the “closet of my heart.” Be ye strengthened in His confidence in all facets of your life.

      Joy!
      Kathy

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  • Cynthia September 26, 2017 at 5:23 pm

    Oh, so true! I’ve been praying for more confidence in my writing journey but it is easy to get lost in the crowd. Thanks for sharing!